Friday, January 16, 2015

The Real Victims of the Terrorist Attacks Last Week in Paris? Muslims, Of Course!

You know, I thought the victims of the terrorist attacks last week in Paris were those practicing freedom of expression and Jews. Apparently, some political leaders would have to argue. The French President, Francois Hollande, legitimately just said that Muslims are "the victims" and that they "deserve protection." The audacity of the FRENCH president to say this just a week after radical Muslims killed citizens of his country is dispicable. You know who needs protection in France? Clearly Jews who are targeted simply for being Jewish, and those that might offend someone for any reason. His statement is comparable to someone saying a week after World War II ended, "Well, not all of those Germans are bad and they are actually victims here too." Whatever truth there is in such a statement is irrelevant when people have JUST been attacked by people from that particular group. Have some sensitivity, sir.

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Here We Go Again: The Boy Who Called "Race"

Just when you thought you might get a little break from hearing another ridiculous thing out of Al Sharpton’s mouth, the Oscar nominations were announced. Yesterday morning, the nominations were revealed, with most of the nominees being pretty obvious selections based on the hype and reviews of their prospective movies. People can get really worked up about these award shows—but never can I remember a time where people got upset over the diversity (or lack thereof) of the nominees. I’m not kidding. This is real. Yesterday, the ultimate race baiter himself stated, “The movie industry is like the Rocky Mountains, the higher you get, the whiter it gets.” Never mind the fact that the people who select the nominees are most likely typical Hollywood liberals or that they select the nominees based on their talent. 
Sharpton’s complaint is in regards to Selma only getting two Oscar nominations. Awww…poor baby. Two Oscar nominations (best song and best picture) is just not good enough and you know, is obviously indicative of those racist members of the Motion Picture Academy. Sharpton and his buddies really wanted the director of Selma, Ava DuVernay, to at least get a nomination—because she’s a woman and she’s black (they could care less about any talent she may or may not have). However, DuVernay has only directed three movies! To blame the lack of a nomination on the color of her skin is not only offensive to Martin Luther King Jr.’s dream of being judged by his character (and NOT his skin color), but it is also ignoring the reality of her rookie status. To help bring people back down to earth, our friends at have compiled this list of the 225 actual biggest Oscar snubs ever. Sidenote: The most snubbed actor of all time? Whitey McWhite himself, Leonardo Dicaprio! Seriously, that’s just an injustice I can’t comprehend.
Just when you didn’t think this “racist” Oscar nomination debacle couldn’t get any more insane, #OscarsSoWhite is trending on twitter with more than 67,000 tweets already. BET tweeted, “Our community #snubbed.” Because I mean really, what is more racist than not giving people Oscar nominations just because they are black? They deserve that nomination just because of their skin color—MLK Jr. would be so proud at all of the progress that has been made since his death. So sorry for all of that injustice you feel, BET (not).
Here’s to waiting for the day people stop blaming everything on race—we can hope, can’t we? Until next time!

"Right For a Reason" is a must read!

Right for a Reason is an absolute must read for all conservatives, and anyone else who is ready to read the truth about why conservative politics is the only solution to a successful America. Miriam Weaver and Amy Jo Clark (aka The Chicks on the Right) tell it as it is in this refreshingly honest and hilarious book that looks at all of the stupidity taking place in our country right now. The chicks have taken what is typically a disheartening topic of our failing administration and have turned it into a hysterical, pun-filled, straightforward look at not only what is wrong with liberals, but why their actions and policies are wrong for our country. The chicks have no apologies, as they state in the introduction, “Fortunately, we happen to be extra loud and persistent. And we don’t give a damn about what anyone else thinks about us.” Every topic from capitalism, American pride, welfare, abortion, feminists, personal responsibility, racists, homosexuality, birth control, first amendment rights, and second amendment rights are addressed throughout the book. Within each topic, Weaver and Clark back up their beliefs with relevant and timely stories that give further depth to their reasoning. Perhaps what is the cherry on top of their fun and sassy commentary are the solutions the chicks give for individuals as conservatives, as well as the GOP as a whole. As they state early on in the book, “Republicans are the broccoli party—what we offer is really good for everyone, but our message is not sexy.” Nowhere else have I read a more realistic outlook on why the Republican Party is having such a difficult time getting votes. With suggestions such as playing offense, putting social issues on the back burner, getting women and minorities elected, using straight talk, loosening up, using media, getting new candidates, and fighting fire with fire, the chicks have come up with the perfect solution for how to get a Republican elected. And thanks to this amazing book, the chicks are leading the way for changing the perception of conservatives everywhere. 

Friday, September 26, 2014

Why I Won't Call Myself a Modern Day Feminist

I've been putting off this blog post for a while, mostly because I didn't want to deal with the backlash of my perspective on the feminist movement in today's society (because it seems to be quite frowned upon haha). However, this week has been the tip of the iceberg for me, so here I go...the top three reasons I won't consider myself a modern day feminist.

1. Let's Talk About Real Inequality
I'm going to start by explaining something: if feminists in America today were truly pursuing the original definition of feminism (having equal opportunity under the law), I would absolutely 100%, proudly claim the title of a feminist. However, this is not the case. Based on the original definition, American women have truly reached the desire of the original feminists. I can vote, I can own land, I can go to college, I can choose my own career, I could choose to never get married or have kids and now that would be socially acceptable. The truth is, women in America have it better than women anywhere else in the world. The reason I refuse to associate myself with the feminist title today is because of western women whining in comparison to the true suffering that is happening for women all around the world. I rarely hear American feminists say, "We need to fight and stand up for the women in Saudi Arabia who are not allowed to DRIVE A CAR or go anywhere without a man" or "We need to do more to stop the abortions/killings of baby girls in China simply because they are girls!" or "We need to do more to stop the selling of girls as sex slaves all over the world!" THAT is true suffering and gender inequality! I have asked some feminist friends of mine about these things before and they didn't really know what to say besides, "Well that's the Muslim culture" (about women that can't drive, show their faces, go somewhere without a man, etc). I cannot take people seriously that believe women are suffering in America because people are trying to stop abortions or make them pay for their own sex lives--it is actually repulsive to me. We live in an amazing country and I have yet to see true inequality as I see and read about in most places outside of America. Let's do more to stand up and fight TRUE gender inequality! Sign me up for that kind of feminism!!!

2. Modern Feminists & the Hate
Original feminists have helped me immensely--I have exercised my right to vote, to go to college, to move all over the place, etc. and I am so grateful for those brave women who paved that road for me. However, modern feminists and their ideology have hurt me, simply because I think differently from them--it's as if I am not a good enough woman because I don't agree with their logic. I have found that many feminists today have come to a far extreme. Instead of the original goal of feminism, which was essentially to allow the opportunity for women to make their own choices based on equal opportunity, it now seems that it can only be the choices that feminists find to be the correct choices.

Let me illustrate this for you:I want to stay at home with my kids until they go to school, because I believe it is extremely important. I don't condemn those who would rather work and drop their kids off at a daycare--that is their own decision to make (and often finances can play a role in this decision, so I understand). I have always wanted to be a mom, as long as I can remember. When people asked what I wanted to do when I grew up, I knew: to be a mama! This is still my response! In my last semester of college, I sat in a small classroom and my teacher asked us various questions that accidentally singled me out haha. One question she asked was, "How many of you are going to graduate school?" Everyone but me raised their hand. She asked me, "Why not?" Like the debt I will be paying off for decades getting my bachelor's wasn't enough haha. Another time she asked who wanted to be a stay-at-home parent--I immediately (and proudly) raised my hand. The summer before, I had spent ten hours a day, each day, for four months, watching my newborn nephew and had come to learn the extreme work, sacrifice, and dedication this requires--dang straight I'd be proud! Nobody else raised their hands. I guess I wasn't extremely surprised, but I was taken aback by the response of my peers. They all kind of looked at me with confused looks and the teacher asked me why I wanted to do this...THAT was shocking!

I explained that I found it extremely important in the development of children and for me personally, it would be very rewarding--that was the end of that discussion haha. Similarly, I have faced a feeling much like the one I experienced in my class recently. I have had quite a few interviews in the last week or so and every interviewer asked similar questions: "What are your career goals?" or, "How does this job fit into your career plans?" or my personal favorite, "Where do you see yourself in five years?" Every time this question (or one similar) was asked, I felt guilt. I had to lie. You see, in five years, I hope to have at LEAST two kids (going on more) and be raising them and working my butt off to do so! After I left each interview, I got mad at myself--why am I made to feel like my career goal of being a mom (which I think is seriously one of the hardest and most selfless things anyone can do) isn't good enough? I was afraid to answer the truth, as to avoid coming off as "lazy" or "unambitious." So, I lied in hopes of getting a job until I can get my dream job (as a mama). It wasn't until the past few years that I started to realize how SAHMs (stay-at-home-moms) are often frowned upon by many modern feminists (this began when the third-wave movement started, when feminists declared getting married/having kids was like living in a concentration camp). I don't think it's AS extreme today, but I definitely don't feel that it's encouraged or even applauded. I have vowed to be honest and proud in my next interview if this questions comes up!

Another way I see the hate from many modern day feminists is against anyone who disagrees with their ideology/political beliefs. For example, take any conservative woman in the media--let us look at Sarah Palin. Sarah was on the ticket as a Vice Presidential candidate. As a woman, I was SO proud. Even if I disagreed with her politically (which I didn't haha), I still would have been proud and thought, "WOW! Look at how far women have come!" (Similar to how people viewed Obama for being black). For some reason, I am constantly considered to be racist because I think Obama is the worst president in our country's history (which has everything to do with his policies and nothing to do with the color of his skin), but somehow, nobody yelled sexist at anyone who wouldn't want Sarah Palin to be VP (there goes that "only if you believe what we believe" mindset). Now, based on the original idea of feminism, I would completely consider Sarah to be a feminist--she has it all! She is extremely successful, balances work with her amazing family, and worked against odds to get where she is! Despite this, many modern day feminists automatically hated her, just because she is pro-life. People called Sarah the most horrible things, like the c word, the b word, made horrible sexual comments about her because she was a woman, attacked her family, you name it! I waited and waited for the National Organization for Women (NOW), who I assumed stood up for and cared about ALL women (as it doesn't say "National Organization for Women Who Only Think Like We Do"), to make a comment about how disgusting these comments were, but they said nothing. So it goes with Michele Bachman, Michelle Malkin, Kate Obenshain, and pretty much any other female conservative politician. In fact, I went onto the "NOW" website to see what they were promoting just tonight, and I was repulsed--a girl is smiling holding a sign that says, "I love my birth control!" Wow, how this brings me to my next point...

3. The Vagina Monologues and Free Birth Control Don't Make Me Feel Empowered
When I think women empowerment, I don't think FREE BIRTH CONTROL! Like is the main banner on the NOW website, much of what I hear today about "the war on women" and the like is how awful conservatives are for not wanting to pay for women's sex lives/abortions, how women shouldn't be afraid to talk vulgarly about our bodies (reference the disgusting play "Vagina Monologues"), and how we can and should be promiscuous--because abstinence is a trap and why should men have all the fun--that's sexist! (Not so much). If the original feminists could see feminists today, I think they would be extremely disappointed. Those women wanted equal rights and equal opportunities, which we have today. They were classy and respectful of all women. I am so saddened at how far we've fallen--what happened to promoting hard work and classiness? Values and morals? Why did we exchange that for claiming it is an injustice to not have our government or employers pay for our sex lives? Why did we tape "my body, my choice" over the truth of what abortion truly is, murder, and demand that this is our right as women? When did we stop being grateful for the true equality we have as women in this country, look the other way to the true inequality the rest of the women in the world face, and continue to complain about things like a false argument of women making less money than men (read this) or how when a guy winks at you on the street it's because of gender inequality (no, that guy is just creepy).

You might completely disagree with me and think I'm a woman hurting "the cause," but based on true feminist ideals, I have equal opportunity, as you do, to voice my opinion and to live life according to however I see best fit. When I have kids, I won't tell them how much women suffer in America. I will tell them how privileged they are to live in a country where there is equal opportunity for them, regardless of race or gender, and that there are less fortunate people throughout the whole world who need us to advocate for them. I will teach them to be grateful for what they are able to do and to be compassionate towards those who truly do not know opportunity because of their gender. There is so much to be grateful for, and if we all focused on the truth and looked at our history in light of the rest of the world, I think there would be a lot less complaining and a lot more advocating for those who are truly facing inequality. When feminists return to fighting for the true and original definition of the word for those who actually need it, I will gladly take on that title! Until then, you can simply call me a grateful and privileged woman with equal rights!

Thursday, August 28, 2014

Debunking "White Privilege"

This should actually be titled, "How rejecting the concept of 'white privilege' helped me to embrace my heritage and respect others without constantly needing to feel guilty about the color of my skin."

If you are a big believer in "white privilege," this may make you mad, in which I say, "Now it's your turn!" Here's the thing: I have been mad since the first time I heard this theory, and I have become increasingly irritated while more and more articles come out saying regardless of a white person's background, life story, or economic status, they are automatically more privileged than any other race, simply because they are white. Not only is this presumptuous, but it is also racist. This notion is absolutely ridiculous to me and I am no longer willing to sit back and take it. So, here goes my five-point debunking of the "white privilege" myth.

1. Everyone has a story.
Notice how I did not say every minority has a story, but rather that everyone has a story. I don't believe that a person's tragedy is more or less tragic dependent on what the color of their skin is. I do know that every person I have ever gotten to know has dealt with things that I would not wish on anyone. Life is hard, and we all struggle with different things. This famous quote summarizes my thoughts on this: "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about." I love this quote because it is a reminder to be understanding and have compassion for ALL people. It does not say that every minority is fighting a battle or that every white person is not fighting a battle--in fact, there is no mention or condition on who struggles most; all the quote says is that everyone is fighting a battle. I believe that if we all thought more like this, our world would look a lot better!

2. I am not just white.
I am proud of my heritage. I am made up of many different ethnic groups that cannot simply be categorized as white. Minority groups are often referred to by their origin, not their skin why is it different for "whites?" Because no one wants to take the time to know what they actually are? But, to go along with the "white privilege" argument, I will explain why where my white comes from is not privileged.

I am at least 30% Irish, and that is the biggest chunk of any of my background, so I will start here. Irish slavery began in the 1600s. From 1640 to 1650, the Irish population went from 1.5 million to 600,000, due to England's killing and selling of the Irish. Yes, that's right--Irish were used as slaves. This began in England, and continued on for two centuries in America (and other places colonized by England) once England started selling the Irish. You might be asking yourself, "Wait, why don't I know about this?" It's because our history books conveniently leave out this information so there are no "white" slaves. Also, the given term is "indentured servants," however, the Irish were treated just as poorly, if not worse, than African slaves. An African slave cost 50 sterling...guess how much an Irish slave cost? 5. That is 1/10 of an African slave. This meant that the beatings that often lead to death for the Irish "servants" were common because they were very cheap and easy to replace. England stopped selling the Irish in the 1830s, but the Irish that came to America during/after the potato famine from 1845-1852, did not receive excellent treatment because they were white. Actually, they were targeted completely because of where they were from and what they represented (obviously the skin color made no difference). Employer's posting "Help Wanted" signs would add "Irish need not apply." I would like to dig deeper into these roots and see what connections my ancestors have to all of this horrible history. But the Irish part of me would absolutely not consider this history to be privileged.

I am also a large chunk of Russian Jewish (sorry I cannot provide you with an exact percentage haha). I do not feel the need to go into the history of the persecution of Jewish people because 1. You already know how millions of Jewish people were targeted and killed for no reason and 2. I probably went way too in depth with the Irish history and I have more points to make still!

I would also like to add that I am Hispanic, Native American, and German. These are all things you can't know about me by just looking at me, which I think is the fascinating part about humans. This is why I do not like to simply be called "white," when I know I represent SO much more than what is seen at surface level.

3. "I Have A Dream..."
When Martin Luther King Jr. said, "I have a dream that my children will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character," I wholeheartedly believe he meant that to apply to ALL colors! He meant ALL people should be judged by the content of their character and NOT by the color on the outside. This leads into my next point...

4. Society's Obsession with Race.
First of all, so we're clear, race is a human-made way to group people based on their skin color. The way in which our society acts about race is so discouraging to me. I believe the obsession with diversity and "white privilege" leads to more tension and more racism. This can be seen especially in the news right now in Ferguson, Missouri. A police officer (who happens to be white) shot and killed an 18-year-old (who was black). Right away, I felt so sad that this young life was ended so abruptly (and I still feel this way)! However, the media and community immediately made assumptions that the police officer is some horrible racist, not even taking a second to pause and think that maybe he was protecting himself. He was automatically in the wrong because he is white. Interestingly enough, this police officer has served in the area for seven years and has never had even ONE complaint about being racist or treating black community members any differently than white community member. Had he been some horrible racist, I most certainly think the behavior would have been noted by community members and co-workers. However, this information does not seem to matter. To compare, the same week that this happened in Missouri, a young man (who was white), was shot and killed by an officer in Utah (who happens to be black). No public outcry, no riots, no looting, no public defenders screaming "injustice!", no assumptions that the officer was acting incorrectly or out of racism. Likewise, after George Zimmerman was acquitted after his trial last year, two black teens in Oklahoma were infuriated and went out to intentionally kill a white person. Sadly, they shot and killed an Australian student who was studying abroad. This was not covered by the media at all, even though it was a despicable and clearly a racially-motivated crime. The hypocrisy in our society today regarding race (and so much more) is so evident and it is wrong. We should all be held to the same standards and give the same respect to others, regardless of race.

5. Why I'm Actually Privileged...
I don't even know when the word "privilege" obtained a negative connotation, so I'm going to use this word in a positive way. I am privileged. I'm an optimist--I believe we are ALL privileged, meaning, there is ALWAYS something to be thankful for (whether you live in a tribal hut, government housing, a tiny studio apartment in New York City/Los Angeles/Insert Large City Name Here with four roommates, or a beautiful two-story home)! I am privileged, but not because I am white.

I am privileged number one because I have a personal relationship with Jesus. My life will continue to be privileged, no matter what I encounter, because I have a God who designed me so specifically and intentionally and thinks I'm worth dying for! If that isn't enough to make someone feel privileged, blessed, etc, then I guess I understand why people might resort to bitterly blaming a whole group of people for being "privileged." Secondly, I am privileged because I have the most amazing support system in my husband, family, and friends. Everyone needs love and support, and this is essential to my belief that I am truly privileged. Beyond that, it's the little things that make me smile and appreciate my life--I see beautiful things like a sunset over the ocean or my husband's smile when he comes through the door, I hear the best sounds like my nephew giggling when being tickled by his daddy and mommy or rain hitting the roof, I taste amazing things like a whole pizza by myself in Rome or my newest baking adventure. I am privileged and blessed and I could cry with thankfulness (I often do!) at this beautiful life I have been given the opportunity to live.

I refuse to sit by and bitterly wish for things I do not have, make superficial judgments about others, and think people are bad for achieving success. Our lives are so short and temporary--live a privileged life by knowing Jesus, giving others the benefit of the doubt, working your butt off, and smiling! So "white privilege," I am not buying what you're selling--I choose joy and thankfulness instead! :)

Thursday, August 14, 2014

To Whom It May Concern

Hi friends, peers, etc:
I have been pretty vocal about my feelings about Azusa Pacific University, but the following is a letter that I wrote a few months ago intended for the President that I feel best summarizes the discrimination I feel I encountered at the school. I realize many of my peers had a great experience, one without prejudice and disappointment, and for that, I am truly happy for you! Unfortunately, I believe I just received bad luck with most of the "mentors," teachers, and other staff members I encountered. However, I am very thankful for the college education I have received, and for those few teachers I had that truly taught and lived with the motto of "God First." Thanks!

To Whom It May Concern:

The very first issue of our school paper in September 2013 presented an article of celebration that stated for the first time, Azusa Pacific University's freshmen class had a majority of minority students. I was confused as to why this was such news-breaking information--I wondered why it mattered what race or nationality any of we students were. APU says they support diversity because it reflects what Heaven will look like; however, I disagree. In Heaven, we won't see skin color and differences--we will see the most important similarity of all: a shared belief in our Savior.

Likewise, when I look at people on campus, I see them as unique individuals with distinct personalities--my view of people has NOTHING to do with their skin color. I have noticed the majority of people on campus promoting this increase in "diversity," that is, segmenting others based on their race or national origin, and saying this kind of segmenting of people is long overdue. In doing so, they are hurting and confusing those who happen to fall in what they perceive as the "majority." I have encountered this reverse racism throughout my four years at APU, starting with my freshmen year in my dorm. My RA required my hall to watch a video called "A Girl Like Me," in which black females are interviewed about the difficulties of being black. Afterwards, my RA asked my hall who felt bad for being white--every single person on my hall (about 30 total) raised their hands, with the exception of me and my good friend. I was shocked. I immediately thought to myself, "GOD MADE ME THIS WAY!" It occurred to me at that moment, that the dream Martin Luther King Jr. had spoken of decades ago has still not been accomplished--it has gone in the opposite direction. King said he had a dream that his children would not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.

As I look around and think of the great friends I have made at APU, I think of how I view them, and it has nothing to do with their skin color. Unfortunately, the administration's obsession with obtaining more "diversity" creates a conflict with Christianity, as Jesus does not look at appearances. God looks at our hearts and our character. When Christian schools stop adapting to political pressures of society and stop trying to reach a "perfect number" of minority students, THEN our school will be trying to achieve what Heaven will look like: a place that does not look at the color of its students' skin and their appearances, but rather focuses on what Jesus looks at--the heart.

I recognize that this goal of "diversity" stems from the demands of leftist politics, something that has infiltrated every facet of most college campuses today. I witnessed the liberal political beliefs in most of my classes, from many of my teachers, and from the majority of my peers. Typically, this would not bother me, as I attended public schools my whole life and the majority of my extended family is liberal--I'm used to disagreeing with others when it comes to policy and politics. However, burying myself in debt to attend a theoretically Christian university to hear my teachers joke and talk about how Mitt Romney was awful during the 2012 presidential election during class and hearing peers say conservatives are evil because they don't believe homosexuals should be allowed to be married was truly troubling.

The administration’s decisions also clearly depict a more left-wing liberal institution than they represent to our supporters and our Board. This past semester (Spring 2014), APU decided to not allow Charles Murray to speak at chapel, even though it had been on the calendar for months--supposedly because he might offend black students because of things he has written. This is extremely concerning to me, especially because my graduation speaker for December 2013 was Susan Bonilla, an alumn of APU and a democratic assembly woman who supports abortion and gay marriage (among other things that I disagree with and that contradict the Bible). It was shocking to hear the president of the school, Jon Wallace, say that Bonilla stood for what APU stood for as he introduced her. Additionally, her beliefs were never addressed. I had researched her before my commencement took place to see which way she voted on important issues (like ALL college students should do). I was offended, but it confirmed what I had learned from the very beginning of my time at APU--regardless of the religion a university may claim, being politically correct is often more important than being biblically correct. I pray that the administration, the professors, and the students will truly be reminded of and encouraged to seek out what it means to support the motto of "God First."

Thank you,
Kaylee Hunter

Friday, August 8, 2014

"Love" is Not Enough

"Love" is not enough. 

I have been married for just over seven months. December 28th, 2013 was an amazing celebration of the beginning of my marriage. I felt so blessed to be surrounded by so many loved ones who came to show their support for Josh and I. Marriage has been such a gift and growing experience so far. As a Christian, I believe (based on scripture) that marriage is a covenant created by God, which is the closest depiction of God's covenant with His people. Marriage has certainly been one of the best growing experiences for me in regards to my faith.

"Love" is not enough.

Romantic novels & movies, media, and society alike have been feeding people the lie that love between two people is all that is necessary to create and sustain a healthy marriage. Well, I'm calling it--BS!

"Love" is not enough. 

Love is not enough to last a lifetime of hardships, loss, scary unknowns, anger, fear, and any other thing that is certain to be encountered within marriage. Love is not enough because humans cannot give enough love to fill someone else's emptiness and needs. No, humans have a much bigger need and desire than what can be found from a single person (hence the high rate of divorce, society's belief that people need not get married anymore, or that having multiple sexual partners is great).

"Love" is not enough.

If love were enough to make a relationship last a lifetime, I would not have broken up with my first boyfriend. But, even after two years in a relationship with said boyfriend, I knew our fundamental differences in beliefs about God would leave me empty and always seeking for what I truly desired and needed--someone who would put God before me and who would want me to put God before them. Here's the truth: if your significant other is your savior, you're doing it wrong. They cannot save you--only Jesus can.

"Love" is not enough...but GOD'S love is more than enough.

I am human and so incredibly flawed. Without God, I'm sure my marriage would be 100x harder. But with God--I reconsider...I reconsider going to sleep angry about something insignifcant and instead, seek to resolve a conflict before sleeping on it. I reconsider seeking my own needs first and think about the needs of my husband as just as important as my own (if not more, depending on the situation). I reconsider my usual selfish nature to try to have a more selfless nature. I reconsider keeping my emotions inside, like was my typical reaction pre-marriage, and instead share my feelings with my husband.

Every single day is a learning experience in marriage. There are times when I let my husband down and when I disappoint him, when I know I could have shown more love and compassion. It is such times that I look to Christ and am reminded of His covenant made with me--how He always pursues me and never gives up on me. It is Christ's love for me that helps me to love my husband in the best way that I can. Having Christ's love in me helps me to forgive my husband and offer forgiveness when it would be easier to stay mad or complain. Knowing Christ's love for me helps me to remind my husband to turn to Jesus for true fulfillment.

I will never be able to give my husband 100% of what he needs because I am human and so is he. But Jesus' love is the best tool we have to help us love one another best. What is the biggest thing I have learned so far in these past seven months? My husband's love is not enough to sustain me; but God's love for us is more than enough to satisfy our needs and remind us how to best love one another.

God's love is more than enough.